Our guest blogger is Melissa Kaat, who along with Kari Lindahl ministers to our children and families.
I often find myself caught between wanting to stay informed about the world and needing to step back for the sake of my own well-being. For most of my life, music has been the thing that has helped me find that balance. To me, music, has a way of lifting my spirits, grounding me, and offering comfort without asking anything in return. But recently, even my favorite artists weren’t giving me the reassurance they once did. After taking a quiet break from music altogether, I was introduced to a Christian artist whose songs reminded me of God’s never-ending love through his lyrics filled with hope and deep faith. That unexpected discovery shifted something for me. It made me realize that sometimes the things we’ve always relied on stop being enough, and this moment then becomes an invitation to look for something deeper, even in places we never thought of searching.
Music has touched every part of my life. Growing up in a small rural town in Wisconsin, music on the radio was one thing we always had. I remember listening to the large bulky room stereo in our living room constantly. In elementary school years, I often had morning karaoke sessions with my mom, using the vacuum handle as our microphone, of course! After school my dad would always have music blaring from the garage while he worked on projects and my siblings and I played outside. As a child, we had the radio on for each family dinner at night and it was always on in the car no matter how short the ride was. As an adult, with my own family now, music continues to be a part of my daily life. I often listen to my favorite bands on the daily walk with our dog. We love to stream the best sing-along musicals on our long car rides together. And during family game nights, there is often music playing in our house over someone’s streaming service. Music is a part of me, but recently I have felt like the music I love no longer seems to give me the comfort I crave, and have grown to know and trust.
A few months ago is when I really started to realize that I needed more from music. 80s and 90s country music has some amazing songs that bring me right back to the simplicity of my childhood. But right now, amid the constant stream of notifications and the unen my kids ding rush of daily news, I need something that does not just tell me a folksy story that rhymes or has a catchy tune. I am craving a deeper connection from music, something that touches my soul and fills me with the same comfort and reassurance that a child feels when their mom kisses their bandaged scraped knee. So, in my struggles, I found I just stopped listening to music completely. I experienced my days feeling longer, and I tried to fill the new empty space with highly recommended audio books and crime podcasts, but I still felt lost. This wasn’t working either and missing music, I felt I needed to try again. Over the following weeks, I tried different styles of music, different artists, and then over hearing my kids music, I tried completely different generations of music.
A young Christian contemporary artist writes lyrics that hit me, like “I’ve been sick and tired of being sick and tired” and “I gave him nothing, and He gave it all”, and when I find my prayers feel hopeless the lines “It’s hard to get up out of bed, I look up to the sky and say, ‘I’m done, I’m done’, and He says ‘Watch your mouth boy, don;t talk like that.'”Josiah Queen sings about having the newest i-phone, yet our bibles are dusty and the unconditional love God gives us all is on blood stains on two wooden beams. His songs are written with a deep love of God and he sings them with so much passion and in a relatable way. His music was exactly what I was looking for , what I was missing. His songs offer me comfort and real meaning that go beyond my old favorites. I am sure I am very late to discover him since his first song was released in 2020, but before now I have needed to look beyond my music comfort bubble. Now, more than ever for me, listening to music isn’t just about filling background noise; it’s a way I can find moments of peace and seek out words of reassurance I really need to hear even if it’s only for three to five minutes at a a time.
This experience taught me something I didn’t expect: sometimes the things we’ve relied on for years stop fitting the version of ourselves we’re becoming. And that isn’t necessarily a loss but instead it could be an invitation to be more. When I finally stepped outside of my familiar playlists, I discovered new music that spoke to parts of me I hadn’t realized were aching for attention. It reminded me that comfort can evolve, and meaning can show up in places we never thought to look.
So here’s my challenge to you: choose one thing in your life that you’ve always accepted as “just the way it is” whether that be a routine, a hobby, a habit, or a source of comfort, and ask yourself whether there might be more waiting beneath the surface. You might be surprised by what you find when you give yourself permission to look beyond the familiar.
Melissa Kaat
