Recently I found myself harried and hurried with a bevy of “to-dos”. It was one of those days. I was in a mid-afternoon rush, and traffic was slowed by emergency vehicles and construction and delivery trucks and school busses and crossing guards. As I fell further behind on my plan to accomplish my errands, I could feel my blood pressure pulsing.
I decided a cup of coffee might sooth the strain, and so veered into Dunkin Donuts where of course the drive thru lane stretched all the way out into the side street. Uggh! “Quicker to just go in” I muttered, feeling sorry for myself, and as I got the door a woman on her way out held the door even with four coffees in a carrier bundled in her arms.
“Well, hello!” she said as I tried to scoot past without noticing. But she pushed through. “Hey, I hope you’re having a blessed day!” she said, kind of bending down a bit so that she could catch my eye and ask me to catch hers. What followed was just a couple of seconds of sharing life together, seemingly insignificant, as we looked into each other’s eyes and she smiled at me, as if to say, “Hey, it’s all going to be ok, we’ll get through this!” And that was that as she pushed on and I pushed into the line for my coffee and blueberry donut — my favorite Dunkin’ fare.
Finally back in the car, I laughed to myself a bit recalling the encounter — first kind of shaking my head at my own attempt to avoid, to ignore someone saying hello to me, and then finding myself grateful that she didn’t give up, but sensed in some way that I needed a little encouragement, a bit of hope, and stooped down to really see me and wish me a blessed day.
I’ve been thinking about it since, and trying to learn to become more intentional about greeting the people who I am passing throughout each day, trying to lift my head up and look at others I meet, and borrow that woman’s kind words….”Well, hello!” I realize that I have been conditioned behaviorally, culturally, in my lifetime of urban living to just kind of ignore the presence of others and stay in my lane. Someone might get nervous if I acknowledge them on the elevated train as I sit down next to them, let along go even further to say hello.
But I’m re-learning how much I need this human interaction, and the constant opportunities I have to see and acknowledge others who might be having a tough time, a hard day. I think about all these Jesus encounters in John’s gospel we’ve been reading through lent, and how each of them begins with Jesus own ability to essentially say to those he meets, “Hey, I see you. I see you.”
The invitation for me is two-fold. First of all, to lift up my head and my life and see others around me, always passing by. And second, seeing them, to bless them, to greet them, to say thanks for holding that door, and even more importantly, for seeing me.
Love From Here!
Peter Hawkinson

